Many of you loved the 7 Phrases Successful People Would Never Say article and sent me some great additions to the list. Thank you. I do believe it’s important for one’s own self-development to be aware of what you think, say and do, so I figure I would write another article to list out these great additions of disempowering words. The idea is to catch yourself, or others, whenever you think, say or hear these phrases.
Aristotle once said, “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then, is not an act, but a habit.” To echo Aristotle, I would paraphrase by saying “We are what repeatedly say. Success then, is not by accident, but an intention.” Intend your success.
Get rid of these phrases from your thoughts and your speech today and start to think, say and do like the successful person you know you are!
1. It is not fair
Life is never fair. If you truly care about something, instead of blaming the world for it, accept responsibility for yourself and your results and go after what you want.
2. I don’t care
No one wants to waste time on someone who doesn’t care. Even if you truly don’t care, do not hurt other people’s feeling for whom they may care.
3. It doesn’t matter to me…
You may say this when:
- You are lazy and don’t want to think about it right now
- You are trying to be polite and let the other person choose
- You really don’t care
Instead of saying “It doesn’t matter to me”, say this:
- I am flexible on this
- I respect your opinion on this.
- I am fine with your choice.
This is a catch-all response for kids which can mean many things. Every time you say “Whatever…” people might think you are saying:
- I don’t care
- This is end of the conversation.
- You can say whatever you want.
I found an interesting article from the BBC explains the full history of this word . The bottom line is successful people don’t use the word whatever.
5. I could’ve thought of that
You either thought of it or you did not. And even if you did think of it, you either did something about it or you didn’t. The past is the past. Let’s move on and start thinking about the future. This phrase adds no value to your communication.
6. It’s not my fault
Successful people take 100% responsibility of everything that happens around them. Who cares who fault it is? What really matters is how you are going to solve the problem now?
Just Do This…
Combined with the 7 phrases from the last article, I challenge you to eliminate these 13 phrases for the next 2 weeks. See if you can do this. I’m willing to bet you’ll notice a more positive attitude in your own life.
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