I read this article from Steve Pavlina the other day and found it particularly funny. I can’t help and start asking myself - who is holding me back?
Sometimes it could be your husband, your wife, your boyfriend, your girlfriend, your best friend, your coworker, your parents or your teachers. Or it could even be … You!
Why would they (or you) want to hold you back? They love you, right? You love you, right?
Of course they love you and it is not their intention to “hold” you hostage. It is not that they don’t want you to succeed. They are just uncomfortable with where you are going. After all, they have never been there before and they have no idea what is it all about. They love you therefore they want you to stay with them in the comfort zone. A place where they can understand and be able to see you and protect you.
I am not against a comfort zone. I just find it extremely boring and predictable.
Trust me. I know and I understand. I am 30 years old and my mother would still say:
•You don’t want to do that.
•You can’t do that.
•That sounds too risky.
•Are you sure what you want to do that?
I know she doesn’t REALLY mean to hold me back. She is being protective. So instead, she would ask me to stay and work hard in my company job. She is comfortable with the idea of working in a company, but not running a business or going after her dream. Do you remember when you were a little baby? Your parents were so excited about your first steps. They knew you wouldn’t start walking immediately. They knew (from books and magazines) that it takes time for you to build your leg muscles gradually. They knew every baby goes through a similar learning process before he or she can master this most important of motor skills. They were patient with you because they knew that is part of the process.
Unlike your baby first steps, your loved ones don’t necessary have the patience or understanding about your new transition or process to become greater.
I don’t want to you to get upset with your loved ones. Remember, building businesses or achieving anything else in life is all about working with other people. Just because they don’t understand you today don’t mean they won’t tomorrow.
It takes time and we all need to figure out a way to gain emotional support from your loved ones. How can you do this?
Don’t expect your loved ones to magically turn around immediately. It won’t happen. Trust takes time to build. Sometimes it may take weeks, months or even years. But you know it will all worth it.
If your loved ones are so stubborn that they absolutely will not support you in achieving your dreams, please show them the following letter and fill in the blanks with your specific dream or venture.
Just tell them you wrote this yourself.
I really need your love and support in my new _______.
I am learning a lot at my (current place). I am comfortable with it, but I really want to learn, grow and prepare myself for something greater than myself. Learning to ___________ is fun and challenging for me. I am very excited about this.
This is extremely important to me. I know you will support me. I need your help. I know you love me and want to protect me. This is something I really want to do. I will learn and plan thoroughly.
I know I will not succeed overnight and I need you to be there for me. I will make mistakes. I know you will stand by me when that happens. I know you want to help me to succeed.
I love you. Please give me your full support.
(Sign Your Name)
Think About This…
Who is holding you back right now? Who do you want to see at the finish line?
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